It's Wednesday--and I have another twist in the {
distance makes the heart grow fonder} series for today. Since Chris and Mariah {from
Paint the Desert Red} met at a wedding back in 2009, their lives have been filled with a whirlwind of trips and excitement. Multiple moves and life changes makes this story one which
cannot be missed! Read on, folks...
Name: Mariah
Significant Other's Name: Chris
When did you start dating? August 23, 2009
At what point did you begin dating long distance? August 23,
2009
How do you fill your days while you're apart? It wasn’t hard to
fill our days at first. We met at our friends’ wedding (they got married in
Maine and we were both in the bridal party). After a fabulous wedding night
kiss and over a month of phone calls and texts, Chris finally came to visit me
in Boston and we made our relationship official. Since we dated long distance from the start,
we were both busy with work, friends and the newness factor of our
relationship. After awhile, when the distance was harder to take, it helped to
set mini goals. We tried to stay focused on planning each individual trip to
see each other instead of getting fixated on the “what ifs” of our future. We were
able to see each other about every six to eight weeks for one year, staying
busy with our jobs and social lives but chatting everyday for hours to keep our
connection strong. We also got great at surprises….like when Chris sent me a
scavenger hunt full of riddles that lead to a massage at a spa and I mailed him
cookies and perfume-spritzed letters every Friday until Christmas.
What do you find most difficult about being long distance? The hardest part was not having someone there
to hug you at the end of a stressful day, laugh with in person, or hold hands
with walking down the street at night. It was the little things that were
really tough… the things you just can’t get over the phone or in an email. It
was also hard to figure out next steps for our relationship when we couldn’t
even see each other. I think we both got a few grays that year.
How has long distance changed your relationship? It forced us to truly get to know each other.
We are much better at communicating and understanding each other now and are
best friends before anything else. We also became experts of living in the
moment and really doing our best to keep things interesting in between
visits.
What do you enjoy most about the time you have together? I love being able to try new things, explore
new places, and laugh together. Chris and I share a love of travel, food and
How I Met Your Mother. We have taken ballroom dancing lessons, hiked in Hawaii,
and spent hours playing catch on the front lawn. It’s fun to have a partner in crime.
What sacrifices have you made in order to make things work? So many! I moved out to Indiana after a year
of long distance so that Chris could finish his residency and I could start my
nursing prereqs. It was hard to go from 0-60 and live together after a year of
long distance. There were a lot of big stressors and heavy conversations
throughout the first year, as we struggled to strike a balance and find a way
to make both people happy. We moved to Arizona after a year of being in Indiana.
It is awesome to have a fresh start in a place where we can both really grow
and have fun.
How has your life changed now that you're back in the same place? My life has changed in so many ways. I’m
learning to be more giving, to compromise, to take chances. I’m learning you
can have love and a career that you are passionate about. I’m enjoying having
someone who is willing to stick it out through thick and thin with me and live
each day with the goal of making me happy. It’s really refreshing to have love
in my life that is so real and pure in every way. I know that long distance and
the struggles to build a life together have made the foundation for our future
stronger than ever.
Send your love in
Mariah's direction today! I'm so happy she and Chris are finally in the same place--and can enjoy life
together :) They are certainly an inspiration for those in long distance relationships that even the biggest sacrifices are worth it. See you back here tomorrow!