open line #2.

One of my readers reached out to me recently and I thought it would be the perfect {second} installment of my open line series. For simplicity's sake, we will call this reader {kn} from here on out--please note: initials have been changed.

As always, I'm happy to field your questions--on life, love, fashion, or 

whatever topic is on your heart. My line is always open!

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Setting the scene: {kn} approached me with a question about moving...moving away from home {where she's spent all but one year of her life} to a city where she has no roots. The major limiting factor to her move is her townhouse {rockstar that she is, {kn} owns a darling home which her father helped to renovate and she has a strong emotional attachment to it as a result}. As a point of reference, her projected new home is roughly four hours from her current one...definitely a doable distance!

{kn} has also witnessed the inevitable mid-twenties disappearing friend act on numerous occasions in the last year or so. Many of her friends are now married and as she put it "just aren't social anymore." Being the opposite of a wallflower, {kn} doesn't have a tough time making friends...she's simply struggling because the ones she does have seem to be leaving her for their hubbies.

In my opinion, the final two elements of {kn}'s story are very intriguing. The first? She's attempted to make this decision before...last year in fact. Her townhouse didn't sell {boo housing market!}, so it made it impossible for her to move. She also said this wasn't the most "emotionally stable" time in her life, so she was glad the move didn't happen. 

The second element? {kn} didn't stick around for a guy. She stuck around for herself. {This is often not the case, as I'm sure many of you can attest.} During the winter months, she did revisit trying a previous relationship with a former love interest, but it has since fizzled out. {"It went back and forth," she said, but "it didn't work out" in the end.} She does, however, seem resolved that "even if {she met} Mr. Right next week", it wouldn't change her decision to move. She wants to move because it would be an opportunity to step out on her own--and it's something she's always dreamed about doing, seeing as she's basically spent her whole life in one place.

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My thought process: 

{kn} is one BRAVE cookie. She has a solid head on her shoulders and she knows what she wants, which is more than many of us {:cough: or I :cough:} 

can say.

She will only be twenty-something 

once in her life. She deserves to take the chance and try out somewhere new before she's tied down with her future Mr. Right.

My final words to her: When you feel like you're being left behind, keep a smile on your face. You haven't found Mr. Right yet because he's probably with Ms. Wrong....who is filling his life until he finds you, his Mrs. Right. {Trust me--you'll thank her later...I feel that way about {cv}!} Speaking from the married point of view, I am sure they're not purposely excluding you. Though I will have to say, it's pretty lame that they are. They'll look back and realize their faux-pas. I promise you.

I agree with you that moving isn't going to be a "piece of cake". It won't be, at all. But like you said, I think it would absolutely be worth it. Why? Because it would be your opportunity to stand on your own two feet. To meet new people out of context {aka away from home, college, etc...and make them because you like them, not because of circumstance!}. To open your doors to the possibility of finding Mr. Right. All of these things equal a step in the best direction possible...up!

So, I say move. Or else you'll always wish you did. You'll never forgive your twenty-something self {when you're in your 40s or 80s} if you don't.

What do you think? Was my advice appropriate?

Have you ever been through a similar experience?

A big thank you to {kn} who shared her what was on her heart with little ol' me...like I said at the beginning of this post, I'm always here to answer your questions, big or small. Simply email me at: longdistanceloving{at}gmail{dot}com

Get ready for some {long awaited} NOLA photos tomorrow :) :) :)

I hope you have a fantastic Saturday! xoxo {av}


P.S. Endless thanks to my Friday's Fancies faithful...and to the newcomers to the bunch yesterday! I'm already looking forward to next week!

{just a little food for thought for today!}

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